The LANGUAGE of POWER™ (LOP) is a scripted communicational system that teaches us how to stop giving our power away to others or to reclaim that power if we already have. Herein are some of its accomplishments SexualitySelfDefense.org (SSD)
A national movement to permanently remove the scourge of sexual harassment from our society and culture based on our Language of Power program
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A disruptive teenager in an urban high school
A suburban mother addresses a neighborhood teenager problem
A YouTube video about two real life juvenile delinquents and their parents struggling with the Language of Power
Voices from the school with no bullies
Interview with a mother who slowly learns to speak the language.
The Language of Power© in a Public School System
From the emotional support classroom of a suburban middle school and a teacher trained in the language
Creativity, Juvenille Justice & the Language of Power©
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IT'S ALWAYS ABOUT POWER!
We don't have to engage the other person based on that person's desires or intent or agenda.
We're free to respond however we chose to!
So with a perp – or any dominance/submissive situation we – initially – have control.
We can respond or not respond.
Those who would control us have created the expectation that we must act (respond) in certain ways (social acceptance or cultural expectations).
When we can find the courage/guts/fortitude to not fall in line with this cultural dictate, we will always – absent force or economic determination ('the guy is my boss', etc.) – be able to handle perpetrators because we – initially – can control how we respond.
And so we – all of us – can learn how to interrupt/disrupt/refuse to respond to the “communicational flow” – the expected sequence of verbal stimulus/response.
We can learn not to give our power away to others or to reclaim that power if we already have.
This is LANGUAGE OF POWER © PRINCIPLE #6: BE NON-RESPONSIVE TO NONSENSE.
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"...I think about a guy I talked to early on, a rising college junior who'd equated a girl's invitation back to her room with sexual consent. "I want to do the right thing," he told me, "but I don't know what the right thing is. I just know what I know, which is a lot of really confusing and wrong" stuff. He pressed forward unthinkingly, one might say manfully - or as he described it, "boom, boom, boom, boom" - until she put a hand on his chest saying, "Whoa! I don't want to do that."
"And in that moment," he said, "I could see just how wrong it was. The utter lack of communication that took place in those five to ten minutes. And even realizing that I didn't feel great myself about what we were doing. I just..." He shook his head regretfully. "I thought that was the only option. I thought that was the way things were supposed to be." - Peggy Orenstein, New York Times, January 12, 2020
"I you want to test a man's character, give him power." - Abraham Lincoln